Friday, August 22, 2014

Ollie at a Third of a Year Old

Yeah this one is a bit late.  I guess better late than never right?  Poor second child haha.

Weight-- 14 lbs 15 oz.  

Height-- 25 1/2 inches

Medical Issues--  Same old reflux, food sensitivities to something I am eating (although since I cut obvious corn and soy it is better)

Sleep--  First part of the month was very good.  One wake up around 3 AM and then again 6ish and sleeping from 8 to 8 otherwise.  He even slept from 8 to 6  and then back down until 8 a few times.  The last week.  Yeah up every three hours like a newbie again.  I am so tired.  

Clothes Size-- He can fit into some of the bigger 3-6 month stuff, but he is mostly in 6-9 month stuff.  

Diapers size-- He has moved up to the second snap rise setting on his smaller cloth diapers.  In disposables, he is in a size three.

Diet-- Boob milk and Zantac still. I am contemplating starting him on baby cereal though since his reflux is so bad and the pedi recommended it.  We do baby led weaning so I don't typically do cereal, but his spitting up is out of control.
Baby led weaning

Baby Gear I Love--
Graco DuoDiner LX Highchair For some unknown reason, my kiddo loves sitting in his high chair.  He doesn't eat anything yet.  He just sits there and looks around.  Even when he is super fussy, he will sit there and calm right down.  Weirdo.

Sophie  He loves chewing on Sophie's legs.  Destructo tolerated Sophie, but Ollie loved it.
Taggie lovey  He sleeps with this every night.  I know it is a SIDS risk but he freaks out if I don't let him sleep with it.  Destructo was the same way.  They love the soft fleece on their cheek.
His beloved lovey.  Now if I can only find a cheap enough replacement just in case.

Milestones--  He started sucking on his toes.  So gross.  Why do babies like to suck on their toes?  He is also regularly rolling belly to back and can pivot in circles.  Other than that, he isn't doing much.  He loves to cuddle and be held and just chill out and look around.  My lazy little baby.  I love the cuddles.

Likes/Dislikes--  He likes being held, cuddling, eating.  He thinks every single thing that Destructo does is quite possibly the funniest thing ever done.  He loves laying in his crib looking at his mobile.  He loves rubbery teethers like Sophie.  He hates having to wait to eat.  With a passion.  Other than that, he doesn't dislike too much.  He is a very easy baby thus far.  

Things I Don't want to Forget--  How nice it is to not have to spray cloth diapers.  How sweet his fuzzy little head feels.  How if he even hears the word milk or sees the baby sign for milk he flips and must nurse this very second or else the world will end.  The way he laughs as soon as he sees his big brother.  

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Ten Things you do Differently with a Second Child

Topping my list of ten things you do, do far more, or whatever with  second kiddo is use the seat belt/buckle things in bouncy seats, swings, etc.  When Kai was an itty bitty, I never did.  He wasn't going anywhere.  With Kai running around like crazy, yeah I buckle Owl in at all times.  Mostly to try to avoid being catapulted out of the swing when Destructo decides to "help" by swinging the swing as hard as he can with the baby in it.  Poor second child.

Second on this list let the baby sleep in your bed far more.  I have really crazy nightmares where I thrash and kick in my sleep.  Destructo very rarely slept in our bed because of this.  Ollie was such a bad sleeper until he started reflux meds that he slept in Mr. Destructo's arms nearly every night.  It was all about survival.

Next up is you will wear the baby far more.  Now this probably isn't true for everyone but Destructo hated the confinement of being worn.  Ollie doesn't mind it at all so I wear him a lot.  It is so much easier than having to haul a stroller everywhere.

You will be far more flexible with your second child.  Ollie sleeps everywhere and anywhere.  Kai never slept anywhere but his bed or in the car.  It is so much easier when you have a kid that will doze off anywhere.  I think part of this is Ollie being a go with the flow baby and part of it is the fact that from birth we have been on the go since I have an older kid to take places and do things with.

Next up on my list is the fact that I ask myself regularly why it seemed so much harder with the first baby than it is with the second.  I found my second baby light years easier than the first.  I think part of that is a very easy baby, experience, and not working.  Not sure how much each of those contributes, but I think they all help.  I remember with Destructo not even finding time to wash the dishes in a day.  Don't get me wrong, I still have those days but not every day.  Even with two kids.  So yeah the transition from zero to one was far FAR harder than from one to two.  

You will be in no hurry for your second child to hit milestones.  We couldn't wait for Kai to sit, crawl, walk.  Yeah Ollie can wait as long as he wants to get mobile.  Mobile means more trouble.  Mobile means more mess.  Mobile means even more tired mommy.  Sitting up wouldn't be horrible, but honestly Owl is my last baby and I want him to stay small forever.  
Mobile equals mess

Next up, solid food.  Yeah I have zero urge to start solids.  I like not having to spray diapers now that Destructo is poop potty trained.  Solids mean spraying.  Wahh.  Plus the messy faces, messy high chair.  I forgot how much I don't like all the mess cleaning until I had to keep my nearly one year old nephew a few days recently.  They smear food everywhere.  
Do I really have to start Owl on solids?  His big brother sure could make a mess.

Bedtime routine is short and sweet with the second kiddo.  Some nights I read him a book.  Some nights I don't.  I do always sing him one song.  Sleep sack and into his bed.  Easy peasy and quick.  Then I get to have the bedtime routine that never ends.  Yes it goes on and on my friends.  Babies are so much easier than three year olds that can get out of their bed over and over and over again.

Sock and shoes.  Yeah.  They don't happen with a second child.  No one has time for that.  I think Ollie has worn socks like five times in his life.  And all of those involved church.  Granted he is a spring/summer baby so that helps.  I guess I will have to go the extra step come fall.  But for now barefoot is the way to go.

Finally the last thing on my list is baths.  By the time the second baby comes around, you realize that babies can go a long time without being bathed.  Heck baths are over rated anyways.  I remember taking a shower every single night with Destructo since it was quiet and relaxing.  Now I chose extra sleep over a shower every single time.  Poor Mr. Destructo.  I do still make a habit of wearing deodorant though.  That has to help right?  Right?

What things did you do differently with your second child than with your first?

Monday, August 11, 2014

Dear Second Child

Dear Ollie,
Let me start this by saying that you complete our family.  I can not imagine life without your smiling, ticklish, lazy little baby self.  Mothering you feels so effortless, so natural.  I know what you want from the first little noise you make.  I love you so much and can't imagine being any happier to be your mommy.  In fact this is why I get nothing done anymore.  I keep getting lost in your baby blues and can't stop nomming your chubby cheeks. 

But with all that sweetness said, I have to apologize for a lot of things.  First and foremost I apologize for anything I might have thought and/or said during the first six weeks of your life.  But son you cried more than you did anything other than breathe.  All you did was cry.  You were just downright unpleasant.  Forgive me for my thoughts and words.  I didn't mean them.  But the crying and non sleeping was extreme up in here.  And then thank goodness Zantac arrived and we actually got to see a bit of your personality and it rocks.  You are the easiest baby and I thank God for you every single day.

I apologize for the fact that you might very well never be rocked to sleep in the rocking chair unless you stop sleeping at night.  I beg of you not to stop sleeping.  I mean I feed you on demand, let you sleep on your own schedule, and even now at four and a half months old do at least one if not two night feedings.  Is this not enough?  Please say it is enough.  Anyways I am sorry that I can't rock your for hours like I used to your brother.  It is hard to rock when a three year old is dancing and blocking the rocker.  

I apologize that I don't have time to sit and read book after book to your four month old self.  I guess you won't be a child prodigy.  My bad.  Forgive me.  I do read you Goodnight Moon each night.  I even managed to take the time to point out the red balloon once.  Ahh the mommy guilt.  I pointed out all those darn things to your brother.  But alas your  brother is typically revolting in the living room so you get the book read.  I only occasionally recite it without turning the pages.  And sometimes skip pages,.  Forgive me my precious baby.

I apologize for the fact that you are wearing Halloween and Christmas PJ's in August.  What can I say?  You are a second child and  you grew a heck of a lot faster than your brother.  Fodder for your therapist one day.  If you really need something to discuss with your therapist, you are technically using the same diapers as your brother as well.  And the newborn diapers.  Yeahhh.  Those were your brothers and then your cousins.  Again apologies.  
Neglected second child asleep in the high chair wearing Halloween PJ's in August

Nursing your brother was time spent bonding, gazing into his baby blues, and thinking about how fleeting these moments really are.  Nursing you is more an act of multi tasking.  I can walk around the house, stop your brothers utter acts of destruction, talk on the phone, and fix a PBJ all while not missing a beat, drop??  Whatever.  Again I apologize.  I do stare into your eyes at night when I nurse you.  Well sometimes.  Other times I lay on the couch and attempt to not fall asleep because then I might drop you in the floor.  I have never dropped you in the floor.  Still winning some mother trophy.  

All the times I discover you asleep in things that aren't your swing or crib, yeah my apologies.  I mean just because you fell asleep twice in the high chair in one day doesn't mean I don't care.  I am not sure if it means your brother is incredibly loud and I can't hear you or you are just an amazing sleeper.  Either way you rock son.  Keep up the good work.  You can sleep anywhere the floor, my bed, the high chair, exersaucer, outside swing.  You are one amazing little boy.  
This boy can sleep anywhere

But son the thing I apologize most profusely about is the fact that you will never be able to ride the tea cups at Disney.  No you will have a deep seated fear of them.  I will chip in on your therapist I suppose.  Why you ask?  Because your doting big brother finds great pleasure in spinning the exersaucer around in circles with you in it.  Many times a day.  Oh crap that means I am admitting to how much you are in the exersaucer.  Ugh.  :: hands over mother of the year sash::

Overall son assuming you aren't scarred too badly for life just remember, you are my baby, my final one.  Please don't grow up as fast as your brother is.  I swear sometimes you look so much like him that it trips me out to see you and then look over and see three and a half year old him.  I love you my Owllie.  

Love,
 your apologetic mommy

PS:  I am sorry about the fact that I call you my little Owl.  I am sorry about the fact that I dress you in everything I can owl.  I am NOT sorry about all the owl diapers.  They are freaking cute.  There has to be a line somewhere.  There is my line haha.
I had to bargain two cloth diapers to get this one

PPS:  You really are the most amazing baby ever.  Your laugh just makes my day and your smile gets all the way into your eyes.  Both you and your brother have such expressive eyes.  Yours are just happy all the time.  Your brothers are mischievous all the time.  I love both of your guys expressions.